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What Should I Do After Seeing This In The Bible That Made Me Cry?

My parents are atheist, they never believed in religion, or the Bible. I only became a Christian when I left my parent’s house to live with my aunt in Lagos. My aunt on the other hand, is a devoted Christian. She does not miss any Sunday service. In fact, she made to love the Bible, and I became a born again Christian afterwards. But there was something I saw in the Bible that made me cry.

One faithful day, I was reading and skimming through the Bible in search of New verses that can improve my spiritual life. All of a sudden, I encountered a particular verse in the Bible that made me cry. I almost lost my faith, and I’m still wondering whether to stop going to church as a woman. This is the passage I saw, 1 Corinthians 15 from 34-35.

The Bible is a Christian holy book. It was used many years ago, and luckily, it has gained momentum all over the world. People read the Bible every day just to know more about God, while some read the Bible in other to improve their spiritual lives. There are still some things in the Bible you will read and have doubts, some will even make you shed tears.

From my point of view, here are what I understand from that Bible verse.

1. Women may not be needed in meetings.

Women are also human beings, and they should be allowed to be in any meeting, or place. They should be allowed to speak their minds, because we also have opinions too. We do not need our husbands to speak for us. If you understand what that passage in the Bible was trying to convey, please kindly let us know on the comment section.

2. Women should not speak in the house of God.

I’m really confused about all this. Like I said earlier, I and my aunt are devoted Christians, and we also love the Bible. Is their any reason we should not speak in church?

3. Women should allow their husbands to speak for them.

Since we are not allowed to speak in the house of God, we should allow our husbands to speak for us. The thing is I do not have a husband, so what should I do?

If I may ask, why are some women not only speaking in our Churches today, but administering, preaching and leading men in it?

Are those so called men of God aware of this provision in the Bible, while they allow women to be vocal in the Church?

Let us know your thoughts and opinions by sharing it with us on the comment section below. Do not also forget to share this article to your friends and family.

Hadith of The Day: Kindness To Parents

Abu Hurayrah reported: that a man came to the prophet and asked, ”O messenger of Allah, who is most entitled to good companionship from me?” the prophet replied: ”Your mother”. The man said. “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your father. “
(Related by Muslim and al-Bukhari)

Abu Hurayrah also narrated that the prophet said: ”Rubbed in dust is the nose, Rubbed in dust is the nose, Rubbed in dust is the nose of him {meaning, ‘Shame and disgrace on him’} who is alive when one or both of his parents reach old age – and who then fails to enter paradise {by serving them and showing them kindness and compassion}”.
(Related by Muslim)

Hadith of The Day: How To Maintain Friendships

Anas ibn Malik reported: A man said, “O Messenger of Allah, when a man among us meets his brother or friend, should he bow for him?” The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “No.” The man said, “Should he embrace him and kiss him?” The Prophet said, “No.” The man said, “Should he shake his hand?” The Prophet said, “Yes.”

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2728

Yunus al-Sadafi reported: Al-Shafi’i, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “Being withdrawn from people will earn hostility and being pompous with them will result in bad companions. Thus, be between an introvert and an extrovert.”

Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā’ 13738

Abdullah ibn Umar reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Whoever would like to maintain relations with his father in his grave, let him maintain relations with his father’s brothers after him.

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 432

Amr ibn ‘Abasah reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Allah Almighty said: My love is a right upon those who befriend each other for my sake. My love is a right upon those who defend each other for my sake.

Source: al-Mu’jam al-Ṣaghīr 1092

Al-Mu’afi ibn ‘Imran reported: Al-Awza’i, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “A time will come to people in which the rarest thing of that era will be a friendly brother, or a lawfully-earned coin, or a practice from the Sunnah.”

Source: Ḥilyat al-Awliyā’ 12995

Hadith of The Day: Virtues of Justice In Islam

Justice in Islam also means giving equal rights and treatment to others. Justice is a moral virtue and an attribute of human personality. Justice is close to equality in the sense that it creates a state of equilibrium in the distribution of rights and duties, but they are not identical.

The Prophet (SAW) declared about Justice in Islam in a way: “There are seven categories of people whom God will shelter under His shade on the Day when there will be no shade except His. (One is) the just leader.”(Sahih Muslim)

Justice according to Quran

In Islam Justice is considered to be the supreme virtue. In Holy Quran Allah Almighty mentioned about Justice in many times that we are going to discuss below:

Allah Almighty said in Quran: “God commands justice and fair dealing…” (Quran 16:90).  From this verse, we can conclude that Allah commanded us to do justice and fair dealings in all aspects of life whether it’s small or big matter. In another verse of Quran related to Justice, Allah Almighty says: “O you, who believe, be upright for God, and (be) bearers of witness with justice!” (Quran 5:8).

Therefore, we can conclude justice is an obligation of Islam and injustice is forbidden. The place or importance of justice to the Quranic value system is displayed by the following verse: “We sent Our Messengers with clear signs and sent down with them the Book and the Measure in order to establish justice among the people…” (Quran 57:25)

Hadith of The Day: About Eid-El-Adha

Hadith No: 1722
From: Sunan Ibn Majah. Chapter 9, The Book of Fasting
Narrated/Authority of Abu Ubaid”I was present for Eid with Umar bin Khattab. He started with the prayer before the sermon, and said: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saw) forbade fasting on these two days, the Day of Fitr and the Day of Adha. As for the Day of Fitr, it is the day when you break your fast, and on the Day of Adha you eat the meat of your sacrifices.'” Sahih

Hadith No: 93
From: Sahih Bukhari. Chapter 15, The Two Festivals (Eids)
Narrated/Authority of Al-BaraThe Prophet went towards Al-Baqi (the grave-yard at Medina) on the day of Eid-ul-Adha and offered a two-Rakat prayer (of Eid-ul-Adha) and then faced us and said, “On this day of ours, our first act of worship is the offering of prayer and then we will return and slaughter the sacrifice, and whoever does this concords with our Sunna; and whoever slaughtered his sacrifice before that (i.e. before the prayer) then that was a thing which he prepared earlier for his family and it would not be considered as a Nusuk (sacrifice.)” A man stood up and said, “O, Allah’s Apostle! I slaughtered (the animal before the prayer) but I have a young she-goat which is better than an older sheep.” The Prophet (p.b.u.h) said to him, “Slaughter it. But a similar sacrifice will not be sufficient for anybody else after you.”

Hadith No: 98
From: Sahih Bukhari. Chapter 15, The Two Festivals (Eids)
Narrated/Authority of Ibn UmarThe Prophet (p.b.u.h) used to Nahr or slaughter sacrifices at the Musalla (on Eid-ul-Adha).

Hadith No: 1315
From: Sunan Ibn Majah. Chapter 7, The Chapters of Establishing the Prayer and the Sunnah Regarding Them
Narrated/Authority of Ibn Abbas”The Messenger of Allah (saw) used to have a bath on the day of Fitr and the day of Adha.” Sahih

Hadith No: 1721
From: Sunan Ibn Majah. Chapter 9, The Book of Fasting
Narrated/Authority of Abu SaidThe Messenger of Allah (saw) forbade fasting on the Day of Fitr and the Day of Adha. Sahih

Hadith No: 89
From: Sahih Bukhari. Chapter 15, The Two Festivals (Eids)
Narrated/Authority of Ibn UmarOn the day of Eid-ul-Fitr and Eid-ul-Adha a spear used to be planted in front of the Prophet (SAW) [as a Sutra for the prayer] and then he would pray.

Hadith No: 1660
From: Sunan Ibn Majah. Chapter 9, The Book of Fasting
Narrated/Authority of Abu Hurairahthat the Messenger of Allah (saw) said: “Al-Fitr is the day when you break your fast and Al-Adha is the day when you offer sacrifices.” Sahih

Hadith No: 1289
From: Sunan Ibn Majah. Chapter 7, The Chapters of Establishing the Prayer and the Sunnah Regarding Them
Narrated/Authority of Jabir”The Messenger of Allah (saw) went out on the Day of Al-Fitr or Al-Adha, and delivered a sermon standing up. Then he sat down briefly, then stood up again.” Sahih

Hadith No: 76
From: Sahih Bukhari. Chapter 15, The Two Festivals (Eids)
Narrated/Authority of Abu Said Al-KhudriThe Prophet used to proceed to the Musalla on the days of Eid-ul-Fitr and Id-ul-Adha; the first thing to begin with was the prayer and after that he would stand in front of the people and the people would keep sitting in their rows. Then he would preach to them, advise them and give them orders, (i.e. Khutba). And after that if he wished to send an army for an expedition, he would do so; or if he wanted to give and order, he would do so, and then depart. The people followed this tradition till I went out with Marwan, the Governor of Medina, for the prayer of Eid-ul-Adha or Eid-ul-Fitr. When we reached the Musalla, there was a pulpit made by Kathir bin As-Salt. Marwan wanted to get up on that pulpit before the prayer. I got hold of his clothes but he pulled them and ascended the pulpit and delivered the Khutba before the prayer. I said to him, “By Allah, you have changed (the Prophet’s tradition).” He replied, “O Abu Said! Gone is that which you know.” I said, “By Allah! What I know is better than what I do not know.” Marwan said, “People do not sit to listen to our Khutba after the prayer, so I delivered the Khutba before the prayer.”

Hadith No: 71
From: Sahih Bukhari. Chapter 15, The Two Festivals (Eids)
Narrated/Authority of Al-BaraI heard the Prophet (p.b.u.h) delivering a Khutba saying, “The first thing to be done on this day (first day of Eid ul Adha) is to pray; and after returning from the prayer we slaughter our sacrifices (in the name of Allah) and whoever does so, he acted according to our Sunna (traditions).”

Hadith of The Day: Importance of Marriage

Narrated by Anas bin Malik:

A group of three men came to the houses of the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) asking how the Prophet (ﷺ) worshipped (Allah), and when they were informed about that, they considered their worship insufficient and said, “Where are we from the Prophet (ﷺ) as his past and future sins have been forgiven.” Then one of them said, “I will offer the prayer throughout the night forever.” The other said, “I will fast throughout the year and will not break my fast.” The third said, “I will keep away from the women and will not marry forever.” Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) came to them and said, “Are you the same people who said so-and-so? By Allah, I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of Him than you; yet I fast and break my fast, I do sleep and I also marry women. So he who does not follow my tradition in religion, is not from me (not one of my followers).

Hadith of The Day: The Need To Recite Fatiha

Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (ﷺ), who said: A prayer performed by someone who has not recited the Essence of the Quran (1) during it is deficient (and he repeated the word three times), incomplete. Someone said to Abu Hurayrah: [Even though] we are behind the imam? (2) He said: Recite it to yourself, for I have heard the Prophet (may the blessings and peace of Allah be up on him) say: Allah (mighty and sublime be He), had said: I have divided prayer between Myself and My servant into two halves, and My servant shall have what he has asked for. When the servant says: Al-hamdu lillahi rabbi l-alamin (3), Allah (mighty and sublime be He) says: My servant has praised Me. And when he says: Ar-rahmani r-rahim (4), Allah (mighty and sublime be He) says: My servant has extolled Me, and when he says: Maliki yawmi d-din (5), Allah says: My servant has glorified Me – and on one occasion He said: My servant has submitted to My power. And when he says: Iyyaka na budu wa iyyaka nasta in (6), He says: This is between Me and My servant, and My servant shall have what he has asked for. And when he says: Ihdina s-sirata l- mustaqim, siratal ladhina an amta alayhim ghayril-maghdubi alayhim wa la d-dallin (7), He says: This is for My servant, and My servant shall have what he has asked for. (1) Surat al-Fatihah, the first surah (chapter) of the Qur’an. (2) i.e. standing behind the imam (leader) listening to him reciting al-Fatihah. (3) “Praise be to Allah, Lord of the Worlds.” (4) “The Merciful, the Compassionate”. (5) “Master of the Day of Judgement”. (6) “It is You we worship and it is You we ask for help”. (7) “Guide us to the straight path, the path of those upon whom You have bestowed favors, not of those against whom You are angry, nor of those who are astray”. It was related by Muslim (also by Malik, at-Tirmidhi, Abu-Dawud, an-Nasa’i and Ibn Majah).

Hadith of The Day: The Right of A Child

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “The blessed names are: ‘Abdullah, ‘Abd al-Rahman and similar names that denote the servitude to Allah.”

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “Indeed, the best of names are: ‘Abdullah, ‘Abd al-Rahman, Harithah and Hammam.”

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “If you name the child Muhammad, honour him, make room for him in gatherings and do not frown at him.”

Al-Kafi, narrating from al-Sakuni who said: “I went to Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) while I was sad and upset, and he said to me: “O’ Sakuni, why are you sad?”

I said: “A daughter has been born to me.”

He said: “O’ Sakuni, her weight is on the earth and her sustenance is from Allah. She lives outside the span of your lifetime, and she eats other than your sustenance.”

By Allah, he relieved me, and then he said: “What did you name her?”

I said: “Fatimah.”

He said: “Excellent!” Then he put his hand on his forehead and said: “The Messenger of Allah said: “The rights of the child on the father is that if the child is a male, the father should honour his mother, choose a good name for him, teach him the Book of Allah, purify him and teach him swimming. And if the child is a female, he should honour her mother, choose a good name for her, teach her [from] the Chapter of the Light, not teach her [from] the Chapter of Joseph, not to place her in an upstairs room, and to hasten in sending her to the house of her husband [for marriage].”

‘Be careful! Since you have named her Fatimah, you should not insult her, nor curse her, nor beat her.”

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “He who is given four boys and does not name one of them Muhammad, has indeed been disloyal to me.”

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “Name [your children] with the names of prophets.”

The Prophet (s.a.w.) said: “There is no family wherein there is the name of a Divine Prophet save that Allah sends an angel to them to sanctify them from the morning prayer until evening.”

Imam al-Baqir (a.s.) said: “The best name is the one which indicates the servitude [of Allah], and the best of them are the names of prophets.”

Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) said: “There is no child that is born to us and not named Muhammad, and when seven days have passed, we keep the name if we want or we change it.”

Imam al-Sadiq (a.s.) said: “Someone came to the Prophet (s.a.w.) and said: “O Messenger of Allah! A child has been born to me, so what do I name him?” He said: “Name him by the dearest of names to me: Hamzah.”

Al-Kafi, narrating from ‘Abd al-Rahman ibn Muhammad ‘Azrami who said: “Mu’awiyah appointed Marwan ibn al-Hakam as the governor of Medina and ordered him to assign a salary for the young ones of Quraysh, and he did.”

Imam Zayn al-’Abidin [al-Sajjad] said: “I went to him and he asked: “What is your name?” I answered: “‘Ali ibn al-Husayn.” He asked: “What is your brother’s name?” I answered: “‘Ali.”

He said: ‘‘‘Ali and ‘Ali! What was your father after by naming all his sons ‘Ali?”

Then he paid my salary and I returned to my father [Imam Husayn] and told him what happened. He said: “Woe to the son of the blue-eyed woman and [animal] skin tanner. If I were given one hundred sons, I would name them nothing but ‘Ali.”

Tafsir al-’Ayyashi, narrating from Rib’i ibn ‘Abdullah who said: “Abu ‘Abdullah [al-Sadiq] (a.s.) was asked: “May I be your ransom! We name [our offspring] by your names and the names of your fathers, does this benefit us?”

He said: “By Allah, yes it does, and is religion anything but love? Allah has said: ‘… If you love Allah, then follow me, Allah will love you and forgive your sins…”

Al-Kafi, narrating from Ibn Mayyah from Fulan ibn Hamid who said that he asked and sought advice from Abu ‘Abdullah [al-Sadiq] (a.s.) about the name of his son. The Imam said: “Name him by a name that indicates servitude.”

He said: “What are those names?”

He (a.s.) said: “[Names] like ‘Abd al-Rahman.”

Imam al-Kazim (a.s.) said: “Poverty will not enter the house that has someone from the men with the name of Muhammad, Ahmad, ‘Ali, Hasan, Husayn, Ja’far, Talib, or ‘Abdullah, or from among the women with the name Fatimah.”

Imam Hasan al-’Askari (a.s.) said to Ja’far ibn Sharif al-Jurjani: “May Allah give gratitude to Abu Ishaq Ibrahim ibn Isma’il for his service to our followers, and may He forgive his sins and bless him with a good son who believes in the truth. Tell him that al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali says: “Name your son Ahmad.”

Kashf al-Ghummah, narrating from Ja’far ibn Muhammad al-Qalanisi, who said: “My brother Muhammad wrote to Abu Muhammad [al-’Askari] (a.s.) while his wife was pregnant and close to delivering and had asked him (a.s.) to pray to Allah to relieve her [from pain] and to bless him with a son and to choose a name for the newborn. The Imam wrote back in answer to him, praying to Allah for his well being and said: “May Allah bestow upon you a healthy son, and Muhammad and ‘Abd al-Rahman are good names.”

Then his wife gave birth to twins and he named one of them Muhammad and the other ‘Abd al-Rahman.”

Allah The Almighty Is The Disposer of all Things

On the authority of Zayd ibn Khalid al-Juhaniyy (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: The Messenger of Allah (may the blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) led the morning prayer for us at al-Hudaybiyah following rainfall during the night. When the Prophet (may the blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) finished, he faced the people and said to them: Do you know what your Lord has said? They said: Allah and his Messenger know best. He said: This morning one of my servants became a believer in Me and one a disbeliever. As for him who said: We have been given rain by virtue of Allah and His mercy, that one is a believer in Me, a disbeliever in the stars (2); and as for him who said: We have been given rain by such-and-such a star, that one is a disbeliever in Me, a believer in the stars. (2) The pre-Islamic Arabs believed that rain was brought about by the movement of stars.

This Hadith draws attention to the fact that whatever be the direct cause of such natural phenomena as rain, it is Allah the Almighty who is the Disposer of all things. It was related by al-Bukhari (also by Malik and an-Nasa’i).

Hadith of The Day: Containment of Anger

Hadith No: 16

Narrated: Abu Huraira
that a man said to the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam: “Advise me! “The Prophet said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.” [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 8 No. 137]

Commentary

Background
This hadith is also related by other scholars of hadith. In another narration, it is related as:

A man came to the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, and said, “Messenger of Allah, teach me some words which I can live by. Do not make them too much for me, lest I forget.” The Messenger of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said, “Do not be angry.” [Abu Daud]

Some scholars say that the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, knew that the man who asked him used to get angry often and that is why the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, gave him that particular advice. This view may lead to narrowing down and limiting the benefit of the hadith, whereas it is very comprehensive, far-reaching and applicable to all Muslims because everyone is subject to anger.

There are other Qur’anic verses and hadith that emphasize the need to avoid getting angry. Allah mentions the qualities of the muttaqin:

“Those who spend (in Allah’s cause) in prosperity and in adversity, who repress their anger, and who pardon men, verily, Allah loves the al-Muhsinun (the gooddoers).” [Surah Al-Imran (3) : Ayah 133-134]

In another hadith, Abu Hurairah related that the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said:

“A strong person is not the person who throws his adversaries to the ground. A strong person is the person who contains himself when he is angry.” [Al-Bukhari; Book 47, No. 47.3.12]

And from the du’a (supplications) of the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam:

“I ask you O Allah, for truthful speech during times of pleasure and anger” [Nasaai and Ahmad]

Lessons
There are four views, of which two of them are from the earlier scholars and the other two are from the contemporary scholars, about the interpretation of the Prophet’s, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, statement “Do not get angry”:

1. A person should learn how to change his character and adapt the characteristics of generosity, kindness, calmness, modesty, patience and forgiving. If a person adapts these qualities, then he may be able to restrain himself when he is about to get angry.
2. One should not act based on anger or while being angry.
3. When a person is about to get angry, he should control himself, be patient and not get angry. This is a contemporary view from Sheikh Al-Bitar.
4. Ustaz Jamaluddin Zarabozo says that the text can be interpreted in the following way: a Muslim must think before acting or speaking. As soon as the feeling of anger appears to oneself, then there is a need to think of why the anger appears and whether it is necessary to be angry. While asking these questions, the person must remember Allah and the Hereafter (Akhirah). This will cause the person to calm down and not get angry.

All these interpretations can be applied as different strategies in handling anger in different situations.

If a person gets angry, then it is necessary that the person performs a muhasabah, which is to account oneself of the mistakes committed, what leads to them and how to overcome them in the future. This is an important training for us to improve ourselves.

In various hadiths, the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, teaches us how to control our anger. For example:

The Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said, “I know a word, the saying of which will cause him to relax, if he does say it. If he says: ‘I seek Refuge with Allah from Satan’ then all his anger will go away.” [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 4, No. 502]

The Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said: “I know a phrase which, if he repeated, he could get rid of this angry feeling.” They asked: “What is it, Apostle of Allah?” He replied: “He should say: ‘I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed devil.'” [Abu Daud; Book 41, No. 4762]

Therefore one of the keys to controlling ourselves during anger is to seek refuge in Allah from Satan because Satan influence us through the ‘was-was’ that influence our perception. Likewise, Satan promotes evil to people by influencing their perception.

Influencing human perception as a satanic way to promote evil and create disputes among believers has been mentioned in many verses in the Qur’an, for example:

“And say to My servants (that) they should (only) speak that which is the best; (Because) Shaitan verily sows dissensions among them. Surely, Shaitan is an open enemy to man.” [Surah Al-Isra’ (17) : Ayah 53]

Indeed, if somebody uses a vague word in his speech, then Shaitan ‘whispers’ a wrong interpretation or understanding to the listeners of the speech that may affect the relationship amongst them. This is how relationships in the family, brothers, sisters and friends are severed.

In other hadiths, the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, teaches us how to deal with anger:

“Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.” [Abu Daud; Book 41, No. 4766]

Abu Dharr narrated: The Apostle of Allah, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said to us: “When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.” [Abu Daud; Book 41, No. 4764]

In another hadith, the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said:

“If one of you becomes angry then he should be silent.”

This is an important advice because during anger, most of our actions and speech may not be correct.

Narrated ‘Abdur Rahman bin Abi Bakra: Abu Bakr wrote to his son who was in Sijistan: Do not judge between two persons when you are angry, for I heard the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam, saying: “A judge should not judge between two persons while he is in an angry mood.” [Al-Bukhari; Vol. 9, No. 272]

This hadith is related to the previous hadith (hadith 15) – it sets out to avoid the judge from making unjust judgement.

However, there are praiseworthy anger as known from the examples of the Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhi wasallam. He never got angry except when the commandments of Allah are violated. However, if we want to get angry for the sake of Allah, then we need to be careful that we:

a. are really not getting angry for ourselves or for our own interests.
b. need to do it in the right way, like not committing wrong actions or saying vulgar words while getting angry.
c. can achieve the benefit as intended by the shari’ah. If the action leads to more harm than benefit, then it should be avoided based on the principle of weighing between the benefits and harms.

For example, when giving advice, say it in a good way, using good words, and be careful not to get into a quarrel.

It is well known today that anger causes many health problems especially if they are not controlled. There are wisdoms behind shari’ah injunctions and here we find that to control our anger may be beneficial to our health.

Conclusion
Socially, this hadith promotes better relationship among people. We need to restrain anger and be patient. We may dislike something in this life but it may have benefits that we do not know. Our patience towards others who have been harsh on us may later lead them to think and change themselves to be better. Muslims need to set models for others to learn from.